John reassesses his emotions like this. He now fills in the appropriate and appropriate action columns (changes in bold)
EMOTIONS |
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| EMOTION | STRENGTH (0 -100) |
ABOUT WHAT |
APPROPRIATE (yes,partly,no,?) |
APPROPRIATE ACTION |
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Anxiety/ Worry/Despair
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98- 70
|
Letting mother down by doing the wrong thing
|
yes |
seek to make a wise decision
|
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Anxiety
|
95- 60
|
Possibility of mother being depressed | yes |
careful choice of options to reduce likelihood
of depression
|
|
Guilt
|
95- 70
|
Abandoning/ failing to care for mother
|
partly (depending what else do)
|
care for mother
|
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Fear
|
90
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Of not being able to cope
|
partly
|
consider the wisdom of this option carefully
|
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Hope
|
90-70
|
that can spend an intimate "last summer" together
|
partly |
seek to make a wise decision
|
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Concern
|
85
|
For mother's wish to remain out of hospital,
|
?(but what are my mother's wishes?) |
take into account mother's wishes when
making decision
|
|
Anxiety
|
80- 90
|
Danger of medical mishap if out of hospital | yes |
careful choice of options to reduce likelihood
of medical mishap
|
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Pride/ Self Respect
|
80-70
|
Over looking after mother at home
|
partly(certainly was very kind but depends also upon the wisdom of looking after the mother at home) |
seek to make a wise decision that can take pride
in
|
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Anger
|
75-50
|
At the implication by the medical authorities that he
was unable to look after his mother
|
partly |
carefully reconsider how able you are to look
after mother at home
|
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Guilt
|
70- 50
|
Fall Down the Stairs
|
partly but did believe was doing the right thing |
none but try to work out how to avoid similar
mishaps in future
|
|
Sadness
|
70
|
Medical condition of the mother
|
yes |
seek to positively accept this sad fact of life
|
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Suspicion
|
70-50
|
At medical authorities recommendations
|
? |
seek independent medical advice, carefully consider
what Drs say
|
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Fear
|
40
|
Upsetting mother, and her angry response if leave her
in hospital
|
partly |
try to take mother's wishes into account where
reasonable
|
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Anger
|
35-30
|
At mother for being put in this situation
|
partly
|
none
|
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