Exercise: Explore Your Initial Thoughts
Bill described his situation:
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THE SITUATION IN HEADLINES
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| I work in an pharmaceutical company |
| I have recently been promoted to management and I am now privy to main decision-making |
| I have a colleague, Peter, from the previous ranks who it is now my job to manage |
| Through his own stupidity Peter was suspended from work and given a disciplinary hearing |
| He now has a new position, in sales, on 3 months probation |
| In this new position he has been behaving badly by bragging about job interviews and talking disrespectfully about the company to others working in the company and to/in the presence of clients who know he is not happy in the company |
| He has been warned before and told that this new position is his last chance |
| In the past he has been badly treated by the company as he was promised a pay rise but did not receive it |
| He feels that he needs to look elsewhere but would like to stay with the company |
| He trusts me and sees me as his (only) friend in the company. I don’t really feel the same bonds of friendship to him as he feels to me |
| He believes that one of the managers, who is my supervisor, is gunning for him and he has just sent me an email asking me if my supervisor wants to sack him |
| My supervisor is ‘gunning for him’ |
Bill felt perplexed about what he should do, drawn towards two moral poles.
On the one hand helping his friend and colleague who was in trouble and had
been unfairly treated, and on the other doing what his role as a manager seemed
to imply he should do. The problem is further exacerbated by Bill’s confusion
about what a manager ought to do. He described his decision like this:
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THE DECISION
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| I don’t know how to respond to his email. I want to help him as I feel he has been mistreated and he has no other allies in the company. Also I feel guilty that I do not feel the friendship for him that he feels for me (in fact I’m not really sure I even like him) and I want to make up for this by helping him. However, although I feel confident about my ability to be a good manager, I’m not sure what I’m meant to do in my job as I’m so new to it. I don’t know whether I should tell him that the chap wants to sack him or not. |
This problem raised these two issues that Bill identified:
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ISSUES
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| 1. What should I be doing to be a good manager? |
| 2. What is a friend? |
Bill was not short of things that he thought he would like to achieve in dealing with this decision. Rather his problem is too many, what appear to be conflicting values. These are recorded below:
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VALUES
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| 1. I don’t want to let a friend down |
| 2. I don’t want to let the company down |
| 3. I will feel relieved if he goes because I don’t want to work with him in the future but also guilty because of the relief I will feel |
| 4. I want to be fair to him |
| 5. I want to be compassionate and help him in a difficult situation |
| 6. I want to do my job properly |
| 7. I want to keep the confidentiality (from my supervisor) I’m privy to |
| 8. I want to protect my reputation and future |
| 9. I feel responsible for his happiness (especially as I’m his only friend in the company) |
| 10. I have a duty to take care of my ‘minions’ |
| 11. I won’t be sad about losing his friendship but I’m flattered by it |
| 12. I don’t want to hurt him |
| 13. I want to turn him around and be his saviour |
In response to the email Bill could see the options below, but he wasn’t really happy with any of them as it either seemed that he could help his friend and betray the confidence of his supervisor and potentially get himself in trouble, or keep the information that he had and let down his friend. He expressed the options like this:
| Option A: silence – I don’t reply to Peter’s question | |
| Pros | Cons |
| I’ve behaved professionally | He is less mentally prepared |
| I’ve protected my own self-interest | I’ve let him down |
| I’m not misleading him | |
| Option B: telling Peter that my supervisor is gunning for him | |
| Pros | Cons |
| He is mentally prepared | I’ve not behaved professionally |
| I’ve not let him down | I’ve not protected my own self-interest |
| I’m not misleading him | |
Exercise: Explore your Initial Emotions
The emotions that Bill explored about the problem were quite complicated. Towards Peter he felt a mixture of guilt, fear, resentment and compassion while for his new role as manager he felt a lot of confusion, some regret over coming ‘out of the ranks’ and resentment towards his supervisor. Given his ambivalence about how he should act he not surprisingly also felt frustration about being pulled in different directions.
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EMOTIONS
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| EMOTION | STRENGTH | ABOUT WHAT | CATEGORY | APPROPRIATE | APPROPRIATE ACTION |
| guilt | 70 | I want him gone | situation | ||
| frightening | 60 | I’m his only friend and that no-one else is looking out for him | situation and options | ||
| resentment | 30 | That I’m being his mother goddess – its not fair | situation | ||
| resentment | 65 | To my supervisor that I’ve been sidelined about the future of my staff | situation | ||
| regret | 25 | That I’ve moved out of the trenches and I’m now in management | situation | ||
| confusion | 80 | What is expected of me as a manager | Situation and options | ||
| Fear/anxiety | 70 | What might be the outcome for me | options | ||
| frustration | 90 | Can’t do my role properly – both as a friend and as a manager | options | ||
| compassion | 30 | He’s been treated badly in the past | situation | ||
Exercise: Be an Ace Investigative Journalist and Your Own Sympathetic Critic
Bill, acting as an Ace Investigative Journalist and his own Sympathetic Critic, produced these questions and answers
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| 1. What might happen were I to say to Peter that my superior was gunning for him and he was then fired? | Peter might take the case to court for unfair dismissal – an email sent be me saying that he was being ‘gunned for’ would be important evidence in such a trial. Even if this doesn’t happen my supervisor might well find out that I’d broken his confidence |
| 2. Is Peter acting as a friend towards me by emailing me to ask whether someone is gunning for him? | No, actually I feel a lot of resentment towards him for putting me in this situation |
| 3. What is a manager meant to do in response to this kind of problem? | Find a wise solution |
| 4. What abilities does Peter have? | He is young, arrogant and public school, but also he is very intelligent, he has great potential, at specific and technical tasks he does very well, and he is good at pre-sales technical work |
| 5. Is it really true that I am Peter’s only source of help? | No, Peter’s father is a lawyer, and he might take the company to a tribunal for unfair dismissal of Peter |
Exercise: Be an Un-Spin Doctor
It also became clear that Bill needed to do some un-spinning as what was making a vivid impression upon him was what could happen to Peter whilst his own future was not uppermost in his mind. However when he realized that he might become part of a court case about Peter’s unfair dismissal he realized that he also needed to pay attention to his own well-being.
Exercise: Reassess Your Thoughts
Bill’s change in his understanding of the situation is recorded in the questions and answers. He still felt he had the same problem to answer – what to do about this email, but now the decision to make was broader, in that this included what should he do about Peter in general; how should he act towards his supervisor and what should his role as a manager be?
Exercise: Reassess Your Emotions
Bill reassessed his emotions like this. Realising that he was not the only
person who had Peter’s interests at heart, and that Peter was acting unfairly
towards him by sending the email meant that the strengths of many of his emotions
shifted radically (changes recorded in bold below). It also became apparent
to Bill that many of his emotions about Peter had been motivating him towards
responding to his email by telling him he was being ‘gunned for’ but that this
might not be the most appropriate action to take in response to them. Instead
he would have to think carefully about what would be fair.
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EMOTIONS
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| EMOTION | STRENGTH | ABOUT WHAT | CATEGORY | APPROPRIATE | APPROPRIATE ACTION |
| guilt | 70 - 10 | I want him gone | situation | irrelevant | Make a fair decision |
| frightening | 60 - 20 | I’m his only friend and that no-one else is looking out for him | situation and options | Only partly – others are looking out for him (e.g. his father) | Make a fair decision |
| resentment | 30 - 50 | That I’m being his mother goddess – its not fair | situation | Yes | Make a fair decision |
| resentment | 65 | To my supervisor that I’ve been sidelined about the future of my staff | situation | Yes | Discuss this with my supervisor |
| regret | 25 | That I’ve moved out of the trenches and I’m now in management | situation | Partly | None – with change there is often some regret for things left behind |
| confusion | 80 | What is expected of me as a manager | Situation and options | yes | Discuss my role with my supervisor; make a wise decision here |
| Fear/anxiety | 70 - 90 | What might be the outcome for me | options | Yes, particularly given the possibility of legal action for unfair dismissal | Make a wise decision that protects my self-interest |
| frustration | 90 | Can’t do my role properly – both as a friend and as a manager | options | ? | Try to find an option that allows me to be both |
| compassion | 30 | He’s been treated badly in the past | situation | Yes | Bring this up with my supervisor |
| Resentment | 80 | That he’s putting me in this situation | situation | Yes | Tell him he’s not being fair to me |
Exercise: Generate Candidate Values
In stage 1 Bill had already generated a wide-ranging set of values so the main task here became eliminating duplicates and then seeing which were most weighty.
Exercise: Weigh Up Values
Bill weighed his values like this:
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VALUES
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| Candidate Value | Duplicate? | Acceptable? | Relevant? | Importance? | Weightiness? |
| 1. I don’t want to let a friend down | No | Yes | No (as I don’t feel he is my friend - but see 5) |
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| 2. I don’t want to let the company down/duty to the company | No | Yes | Yes | 2 | 2 |
| 3. I will feel relieved if he goes because I don’t want to work with him in the future but also guilty because of the relief I will feel | No | No (These emotions only imply I should make a fair decision, not that I should be biased in his favour) (see EMOTIONS) |
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| 4. I want to be fair to him | Yes covered by duty to him and helping him |
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| 5. I want to be compassionate and help him in a difficult situationchanged to: helping him as one human being helps another | No | Yes | Yes | 4 | 4 |
| 6. I want to do my job properly | Yes see 2 |
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| 7. I want to keep the confidentiality I’m privy to | No | Yes | Yes | 4 | 4 |
| 8. I want to protect my reputation and future and be worthy of trust | No | Yes | Yes | 5 (rated highest because my interests could be most severally affected if I take the wrong decision without me being blameworthy as Peter is) |
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| 9. I feel responsible for his happiness (especially as I’m his only friend in the company) | Yes (Covered by duty and helping him) |
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| 10. I have a duty to take care of my ‘minions’ | No | Yes | Yes | 3 (scored higher than duty to the company as in cases of conflict such as health and safety issues would put duty to ‘minions’ above duty to company) |
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| 11. I won’t be sad about losing his friendship but I’m flattered by it | No | Yes | No | - | - |
| 12. I don’t want to hurt him | Yes Covered by duty and help |
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| 13. I want to turn him around and be his savior | Yes Covered by duty and help (in more fair-minded way) |
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Exercise: Generating Options
Bill had previously produced the options of silence (ignoring the email) and
responding by telling Peter that he was being ‘gunned for’ so that he could
prepare himself. Bill now generated more options. These are the options he came
up:
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OPTIONS
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| 1. Silence I making no response to the email |
| 2. Replying that the chap is ‘gunning for him’ and saying what she knows |
| 3. Lying by saying ‘why would they tell me?’ |
| 4. Replying by saying ‘I can’t comment’ |
| 5. Replying by saying ‘You cannot ask questions of me like that as you put me in a difficult position’ |
On looking at this list Bill realized that options 4 and 5 could be combined so that he could say that he can’t comment and furthermore that Peter was wrong to ask him this kind of question.
Looking at his list of values and reflecting on the expanded view of the decision he had developed in Stage 1 he also realized that he could do more than simply react to the email, as he could also speak to his supervisor about how John had been behaving, about how he had been treated in the past and about what might be the best way forward. Bill resolved to meet his supervisor at the next opportunity to discuss these issues. He needed for now though to think through what response to make to the email.
Exercise: Select the Best Option
Bill judged that the weighted values would be satisfied by the different options like this:
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ASSESS OPTIONS
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Silence: do nothing |
Telling what know | Lying: saying no idea |
Saying can’t comment and confronting | |||
| Protecting my interests (5) | 3 (it would protect my interests at the company but not my interest in being a straightforward and courageous human being – so not as good as Option 4) |
0 (if this were to become known in the company I would lose my reputation and trustworthiness – esp. serious if Peter took the company to a tribunal) |
3 (it would protect my interests at the company but not my interest in being a straightforward and courageous human being – so not as good as Option 4) |
5 (protect my interest both short term and set my relationship with Peter on a better long-term footing. I would also be courageous and trustworthy to both the company and Peter) |
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| Not breaching confidentiality (4) | 5 (supervisors confidentiality not broken) |
0 (supervisors confidentiality is broken) |
5 (supervisors confidentiality not broken) |
5 (supervisors confidentiality not broken) |
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| Helping, as one human being to another (4) | 2 (neither helps nor harms Peter) |
3 (perhaps in the short term but in longer term might not) |
1 (Peter would not know what was coming his way) |
3 (Hard to judge – but might help Peter by getting him to act better) |
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| My duty, as a manager, to Peter as an employee (3) | neutral | 0 (I have no duty as a manager to do this and probably a duty not to) |
0 (I have no duty as a manager to do this and probably not to) |
5 (this would give to Peter a clear message about the sorts of behaviour which are and are not acceptable within the company) |
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| My duty to the company (2) | neutral | 0 (this would undermine the company especially if Peter were to go to tribunal) |
3 (this would protect the company’s interest but not as well as option 4 does) |
5 (this would be in the best interest of the company for same reason as above) |
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| Selected Best Option | 1 | ||||||
Given this analysis it is clear that the best option is option 4. Bill resolved to fire up his computer and send his response to the request for information. He also resolved that he would speak to his supervisor about Peter; he would recognize that he had been acting very poorly but he would also point out how the company had let him down in the past and pass on his assessment of Peter’s work strengths and weaknesses. This would be treating Peter fairly.
* Details have been changed to preserve the privacy of
'Bill'
This case comes from a decision-making workshop. Working with a group the case
took about two hours. The analysis was produced by the whole group facilitated
by a member of the PROGRESS team.
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